Conflict Prevention Assistance
The Office of Student Conduct and Conflict Prevention staff works with campus partners to uphold an environment of safety, encouragement, and equality. Also, we facilitate and help others develop education and programming initiatives in areas where we want students to make positive choices such as alcohol and other drugs, sexual assault or sexual violence prevention, bystander intervention, and coping skill development. Other roles include assisting partners with a diverse and inclusive campus, and case management for conflict prevention and management.
Dean of Students
Let's Talk: Conversation vs. Confrontation
Sometimes it feels like it would be easier to avoid conflict with someone – that could be family, friends, a teacher, etc. The trouble with doing that is sometimes our feelings will fester, and the situation could become worse than what we ever wanted it to be. If we are having a disagreement with someone – say a roommate – then it makes it even more challenging to hold your feelings in because you live together.
So how can you converse with them rather than totally confront them?
Let’s start on the back-half – what is confrontation?
Confrontation: “the clashing of forces or ideas” [Merriam-Webster]
Conversation: “exchange of sentiments, observations, opinions, or ideas” [Merriam-Webster]
If you look at the two, there is a difference between them. Sometimes we’re told to “confront someone,” and that may be encouraged if we’re not standing up for ourselves, have a point we really want to make, or want to stand up for another. But look at a key term in the definition: clashing. We don’t want you to clash, and I think many people don’t really like clashing with others. So, let’s look at the better option: conversation and exchange. Below you’ll find steps to help you converse better with your roommate, your family, and others.
Remember to LEARN. You’ll be able to increase your understanding about one another, increase your personal awareness about yourself, and ultimately, you can work better together.
Steps to Conversation and Exchanging Opinions or Ideas:
Listen to one another’s view
Encourage one another
Act compassionately during the dialogue
Realize your common interests
Negotiate a new way of communicating and acting